Comments on: Trying to Repair the Damage http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/ My Amazing Adventure Wed, 19 Nov 2008 17:16:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: tiff http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-946 tiff Sat, 28 Jun 2008 21:55:54 +0000 http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-946 Sometimes teachers just don't realise what a powerful impact they have on kids. We went through almost the exact same thing with Lily. I understand where you are coming from so well on this. We moved schools and then got a crappy teacher when she was in year one. It was devastating watching all of the good coming undone. Sometimes teachers just don’t realise what a powerful impact they have on kids. We went through almost the exact same thing with Lily. I understand where you are coming from so well on this. We moved schools and then got a crappy teacher when she was in year one. It was devastating watching all of the good coming undone.

]]> By: jeanie http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-914 jeanie Sat, 07 Jun 2008 04:08:48 +0000 http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-914 Very late in coming to this post, Gemisht. So sorry that your little girl had to go through this. My daughter had a rough transition when we moved schools, so I can truly understand how it is to have a miserable child not wanting to go to where all the pain is. Is there any possibility you can be at school as a volunteer? That made a HUGE difference - in both how 'Salina felt about going to school (she knew she might see me AND a bit of kudos in the playground) but also I could see how the culture of the school was affecting her - and I got a better relationship myself with the teacher, which did also help. Good luck. Very late in coming to this post, Gemisht. So sorry that your little girl had to go through this. My daughter had a rough transition when we moved schools, so I can truly understand how it is to have a miserable child not wanting to go to where all the pain is.

Is there any possibility you can be at school as a volunteer? That made a HUGE difference - in both how ‘Salina felt about going to school (she knew she might see me AND a bit of kudos in the playground) but also I could see how the culture of the school was affecting her - and I got a better relationship myself with the teacher, which did also help.

Good luck.

]]> By: GoaldeeBug http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-903 GoaldeeBug Wed, 28 May 2008 09:48:38 +0000 http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-903 Oh dear God, my heart does flips just thinking about this :( Poor Daisy.... and poor you. *hugs* I hope you can get some resolution soon. Oh dear God, my heart does flips just thinking about this :(

Poor Daisy…. and poor you. *hugs*

I hope you can get some resolution soon.

]]> By: michaelm http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-893 michaelm Mon, 26 May 2008 00:18:52 +0000 http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-893 forgot {{{{{hugs}}}}}} ~M forgot {{{{{hugs}}}}}}
~M

]]> By: Widdle Shamrock http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-892 Widdle Shamrock Sun, 25 May 2008 21:42:31 +0000 http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-892 Firstly BIG BIG HUGE HUGE HUGS !!!!!!!! This has saddened me. Children look to adults around them to protect them and build them up, not tear them down. I feel for you. Hugs for precious Daisy too. Firstly BIG BIG HUGE HUGE HUGS !!!!!!!!

This has saddened me.

Children look to adults around them to protect them and build them up, not tear them down.

I feel for you.

Hugs for precious Daisy too.

]]> By: michaelm http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-891 michaelm Sun, 25 May 2008 20:14:11 +0000 http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-891 I can't even tell you how much I associate with this post. Kids can be so cruel and teachers can be worse. All you can do is be there for her (whether she wants you or not) And pray. We all want the very best for our kids and it hurts the heart when they aren't thriving. Hang in there, okay? I feel your pain completely. ~m I can’t even tell you how much I associate with this post.
Kids can be so cruel and teachers can be worse.
All you can do is be there for her (whether she wants you or not)
And pray.
We all want the very best for our kids and it hurts the heart when they aren’t thriving.
Hang in there, okay?
I feel your pain completely.
~m

]]> By: Hilary http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-884 Hilary Fri, 23 May 2008 07:20:21 +0000 http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-884 Oh Gemisht what a heartbreaking story! I was so lucky with my daughters in that they never had a dud teacher for all of their primary years, except one relief teacher for one term. And all the kids so knew she was a dud that those she discriminated against didn't take any notice, especially since they had all the other kids saying that that kind of behaviour was way out of line. And it was never any competition between my child's self esteem and the laws about going to school. They were allowed to stay home whenever they wanted, assuming we could organise for someone to be there with them. Good luck with sorting it all out. Oh Gemisht what a heartbreaking story! I was so lucky with my daughters in that they never had a dud teacher for all of their primary years, except one relief teacher for one term. And all the kids so knew she was a dud that those she discriminated against didn’t take any notice, especially since they had all the other kids saying that that kind of behaviour was way out of line.

And it was never any competition between my child’s self esteem and the laws about going to school. They were allowed to stay home whenever they wanted, assuming we could organise for someone to be there with them. Good luck with sorting it all out.

]]> By: Evyl http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-881 Evyl Fri, 23 May 2008 01:26:20 +0000 http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-881 There is no single thing that I detest worse in this world than a shitty teacher that mentally abuses children. I had a third grade teacher that 'corrected' me into being right handed with spankings and ruler slaps on a daily basis until I was no longer evilly left handed. Therefore I am extra diligent on the behavior of teachers towards my kids. I hope that your young 'un passes through the fire and returns to her happy smiley self. She has a leg up by having a caring family. Take Care. There is no single thing that I detest worse in this world than a shitty teacher that mentally abuses children. I had a third grade teacher that ‘corrected’ me into being right handed with spankings and ruler slaps on a daily basis until I was no longer evilly left handed. Therefore I am extra diligent on the behavior of teachers towards my kids.

I hope that your young ‘un passes through the fire and returns to her happy smiley self. She has a leg up by having a caring family. Take Care.

]]> By: Jayne http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-880 Jayne Fri, 23 May 2008 01:25:14 +0000 http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-880 Good luck and ((hugs)) for you and Daisy. We had similar probs with Feral Beast which <i>weren't</i> dealt with properly at the school and they snowballed till we now homeschool him (best thing for him, he's the happiest kid ever,now!). Hate to hear of any kid not enjoying school, it should be one of the best times of childhood and some teachers should be reminded it's 2008 not 1908 ! Good luck and ((hugs)) for you and Daisy.
We had similar probs with Feral Beast which weren’t dealt with properly at the school and they snowballed till we now homeschool him (best thing for him, he’s the happiest kid ever,now!). Hate to hear of any kid not enjoying school, it should be one of the best times of childhood and some teachers should be reminded it’s 2008 not 1908 !

]]> By: Gemisht http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-874 Gemisht Thu, 22 May 2008 11:51:04 +0000 http://www.gemisht.com/2008/05/22/trying-to-repair-the-damage/#comment-874 Wow, to everyone, thanks for your comments. I am blown away by the support. It means heaps. Cowgalutah - yep, noticed I had been tagged. I am working on it :) And re the arithmetic, that was my worst subject at school, and now I am studying accounting - go figure LOL Lightening - Thanks, and sorry I didn't mean to make you blubber. I just wanted to share a bit of what's been happening Bettina - So, is the chocolate what gives me the strength to get through it all?? If so, bring on the chocolate :) Anonymous - Thanks for sharing your story. My Mum had an awful time at school and she still talks about it now, 50-60 years later, so I know how much of an impact it can have. Sorry you had such a hard time, I know its been hard to watch Daisy go through it all. Java - Thanks for visiting. And yes it is tough. The pure maternal instinct in me had to be quashed so that I didn't punch the teacher's lights out. That would not have been good, but its what I felt like doing. Anonymum- Yup, they are. A good teacher can be great and a bad teacher can be catastrophic. I wonder if some of them realise the power that they have over young lives. Wow, to everyone, thanks for your comments. I am blown away by the support. It means heaps.

Cowgalutah - yep, noticed I had been tagged. I am working on it :) And re the arithmetic, that was my worst subject at school, and now I am studying accounting - go figure LOL

Lightening - Thanks, and sorry I didn’t mean to make you blubber. I just wanted to share a bit of what’s been happening

Bettina - So, is the chocolate what gives me the strength to get through it all?? If so, bring on the chocolate :)

Anonymous - Thanks for sharing your story. My Mum had an awful time at school and she still talks about it now, 50-60 years later, so I know how much of an impact it can have. Sorry you had such a hard time, I know its been hard to watch Daisy go through it all.

Java - Thanks for visiting. And yes it is tough. The pure maternal instinct in me had to be quashed so that I didn’t punch the teacher’s lights out. That would not have been good, but its what I felt like doing.

Anonymum- Yup, they are. A good teacher can be great and a bad teacher can be catastrophic. I wonder if some of them realise the power that they have over young lives.

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